As I look at the world around me, it seems that those people with the best relationships, were started in friendship.
Friendship as a base for a relationship brings with it an easy going nature, that doesn't always come when you've started a relationship based on attraction. The two individuals in the relationship are more able to be themselves, instead of trying to put on a mask of what they think the other wants. Wearing a mask almost always ends in failure because the mask will eventually have to come off. And the other person might not like what they see, which in turn causes more problems, because you've basically been lying to each other.
And it's not that relations starting out from attraction can move into friendship. It just seems to be a lot easier to be together, when you already are friends. There usually aren't as many barriers to take down, because you already know each other, and on some level like each other.
Having said that, and relating to my lack of a relationship, I think I'm gonna start trying to be friends with everyone. Now this will be kinda hard for me seeing as how I'm not the nicest or most open of person. And looking at my past history it seems that I have a very close knit set of friends, and it isn't always easy bringing new people in. But I think I can do it. And besides I've learned you can never have to many friends.
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More importantly, develop an understanding of what being a friend means, rather than accumulating more. Quality, not quantity.
Touche. It's a very valid point, you shouldn't be a shallow friend, and only there when you feel like it. But I don't see anything wrong with having a wide base of friends, and then you choose those who are then your "best" friends. You know what I mean?
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